Welcome to the re|story 1.0 Group!

Here you will find links to articles, videos and resources for your journey through the re|story 1.0 group. Check back each week for reflection questions and updates on the next week's reading.


Week 9

Reflection Questions:

  1. As we come to the close of this season, how are you feeling? What thoughts/reactions are you having to this group ending?
  2. Now that all the stories have been shared, what are your thoughts about each person in the group? What has shifted for you from the first week until now?
  3. What has shifted in your own heart regarding your own story? 
  4. As was mentioned, next week we will have a time of blessing. How are you experiencing the process of blessing the other group members? What about blessing yourself?
  5. What still needs to be said or done in the group? What do you need in order to close well?

Assignment for the Week:

You are either going to love this or hate this. Holding out hope for the restoration of the world, and the grand narrative we all find ourselves in. 

This is a very interesting TED Talk about addiction. Listen all the way through, and especially to the last few minutes. He comes to a fantastic and surprising conclusion, and lands where every human heart seems to beat.

What really causes addiction - to everything from cocaine to smart-phones? And how can we overcome it? Johann Hari has seen our current methods fail firsthand, as he has watched loved ones struggle to manage their addictions. He started to wonder why we treat addicts the way we do - and if there might be a better way.

Week 8

No assignments

Week 7

Reflection Questions:

  1. How are you sitting with the story you heard this past week? What does it bring up for you?
  2. What shifts are you experiencing in the group dynamic? What shifts are you experiencing in yourself? 
  3. This is week 7. There are 2 more stories and 3 more weeks. What do you still want to happen in this group before we come to an end?
  4. So far, what have you learned from this group experience? How have you learned this? (i.e. from the reading, from the discussion, from the stories, etc.) In what other places (i.e. groups/relationships, etc) have you experienced this before?
  5. What do you need to bring to the group this next week?

Assignment for Next Week:

This week, as we consider our desperate need for approval - for someone to see us and like us, it is important for us to consider WHO has the power to offer that approval. In this video, Brene is talking to a crowd of creatives, who regularly take the risk to vulnerably put their work "out there" to the world. What she says about the critic is crucial.

Secondly, her book "Braving the Wilderness" speaks to the issue of approval. Unfortunately, I do not yet own a copy of this book to provide a chapter (I listened to it on audio). However, the following quote from the book speaks volumes:

Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don’t belong. You will always find it because you’ve made that your mission. Stop scouring people’s faces for evidence that you’re not enough. You will always find it because you’ve made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we don’t negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts. Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than you.
— Brene Brown, Braving the Wilderness
About this presentation There is nothing more frightening than the moment we expose our ideas to the world. Author and vulnerability researcher Brené Brown shows us how to deal with the critics and our own self-doubt by refusing to "armor up" and shut ourselves off.

Week 6

Reflection Questions:

  1. We have crossed the halfway mark in this group. How are you feeling about the group itself, and the relationships within the group? Is this the same or different than other circles of your world? Why, and what would you want to do to change it?
  2. In what ways are you holding back? 
  3. What impact do you think you are making on the other members of the group?
  4. How is the story from this past week still with you? What is triggered in your own story as a result?
  5. What do you still want to explore with this group?

Assignment for Next Week:

Written as a metaphor, this story invites us to consider who we truly are, what we've settled for, what voices we listen to, and the invitation to break free.

This is just a 2 minute video, but it is packed with goodness. Enjoy!

Our behaviors can seem to be so much a part of who we are that without them we would be lost. Listen as Dan Allender offers his thoughts on how to begin to grapple with changing these behaviors and discusses the benefits of challenging ourselves.

Week 5

Reflection Questions:

  1. Last week, the video referred to "In what story do you believe you are living?" How would you answer that question?
  2. How would you answer that question for the stories you have heard so far? What story do those who have shared believe they are living in? 
  3. How is the story you heard this week affecting you? What are you thinking about with regard to it?
  4. How is this group growing you? What do you need in order to make the last half even better? Anything you need to bring up in the group?
  5. What is God calling you towards?

Assignment for Next Week:

Community and connection are at the core of our humanity. How do we do that well as adults all longing to belong? watch the videos as well as you think about community.

For a little different approach, I wanted to share a few videos from a recent movie. Read the captions below, and then watch...

In the new movie "The Greatest Showman" about the Barnum Circus, a group of "misfits" is on center stage - the bearded lady, dog boy, etc. These are people who have been outcast and unknown. In this number, they have been scorned by Barnum, and feel left out and discarded yet again. Watch their reaction, but pay special attention to the lyrics. It is undoing.

Now watch the actors and performers as they engage the music themselves in the studio. Can you feel these real people allowing the lyrics to penetrate their hearts? Does it penetrate yours?

Week 4

Reflection Questions:

  1. How did you/are you reflecting on the story you heard this week? How are you sitting with the story and that person?
  2. What did this story bring up for you in your own life? 
  3. How do you feel about the others in the group? What are your thoughts about them? What do you think/feel about yourself in the group?
  4. Last week's reading was began to enter the category of shame. How is God opening your eyes to your own struggle with shame? What does he have for you?
  5. In what ways are you enjoying this group? How are you struggling? What do you need to say to the group next week?

Assignment for Next Week:

Humans were designed by God for relationship, and yet relationships are often the target of the enemy's greatest attacks.

Last week we read an excerpt from Curt's book, The Soul of Shame. This 31 minute video explores some of those categories more, and introduces ways we can combat shame. 

Psychiatrist and author Curt Thompson explores the impact of shame in impairing work communities, and how the gospel fosters a renewed form of vulnerability as a solution. Curt Thompson, M.D., is a psychiatrist for a private practice in Falls Church, Virginia and the founder of Being Known, LLC, an organization that develops resources to educate and train leaders about the intersection between interpersonal neurobiology, Christian spiritual formation and vocational creativity.


Week 3

Reflection Questions:

  1. Having now entered a story, reflect on what you heard. What was your experience of hearing it? What lingers for you? How does your own heart connect with the themes? What in your own life is triggered by the story you heard?
  2. After discussing vulnerability and empathy and connection, what was your experience while listening to the story?
  3. How are you feeling about this group? What's coming up for you? What do you like? What do you hate? What are you indifferent to?
  4. What impact are the others making on you? 
  5. What impact are you making?
  6. Are there things you need to say, ask or process together with the group next week?

Assignment for Next Week:

We avoid vulnerability because of our fear of pain and because of our core stories of shame. Curt Thompson begins to address why we remain in disconnection.

And at the risk of sounding like a groupie, we have another TED talk by Brene Brown.

Shame is an unspoken epidemic, the secret behind many forms of broken behavior. Brené Brown, whose earlier talk on vulnerability became a viral hit, explores what can happen when people confront their shame head-on. Her own humor, humanity and vulnerability shine through every word.

Week 2

Reflection Questions:

Now that we've crossed the threshold and started our journey together, would you take some time to consider the following:

  1. How did you enter the room, and how did you leave? What happened during the group time that impacted you?
  2. Write down each group member's name (if you can remember them all!), and then reflect on how that person impacted you. What do you think of them? How did you respond to them internally? Do you anticipate connecting with them, struggling with them, etc? 
  3. In what ways do you view yourself as a participant of this group? What do you think other group members think of you?
  4. What do you need in order for this group to truly understand you?
  5. What are your anticipations for next week?

Again, the more reflection, prayer and thought you give to this experience on the outside of the room, the more you will be present, aware and able to re-story during our time together in the room. THANKS!


Assignment for Next Week:

Author Daniel Taylor discusses how we live out of our stories, and the power they have in our lives to both bring death or life.

Brené Brown studies human connection -- our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share.
What is the best way to ease someone's pain and suffering? In this beautifully animated RSA Short, Dr Brené Brown reminds us that we can only create a genuine empathic connection if we are brave enough to really get in touch with our own fragilities.

Week 1

As we get started as a group, please print, read and then sign the initial group paperwork. bring to 1st group.

Each participant will be asked to write and then read a story from their lives. This is a simple PDF guide on how to do that. We will discuss during the first week.

Please read the introduction and first chapter of Dr. Dan Allender's book To Be Told.


Please watch the following two short videos by Dr. Dan Allender about the importance of sharing and hearing stories.


Click on the links below:

How Important Is It For Us to Know Each Other's Stories?